So, he cheated. What does this mean for you? There are two scenarios here and they’re pretty obvious. He’s a man of little integrity – or – he made a mistake and has remorse. Will he do it again?

Some say “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” Others are of the opinion that “People can change.” Let’s examine both of these.

Once a cheater...

If you’ve found yourself in love with a man who has a history of cheating, it’s pretty unsettling. Maybe he cheated on his wife or girlfriend with YOU. Perhaps you came into the picture after his break-up. Whatever the case, it’s important to examine the situation carefully and know the facts. There are many excuses men will use for cheating; the most common:

He didn't feel loved

He didn't feel appreciated

So He didn't get enough physical attention

His deficient fill of love or appreciation is no excuse for cheating, nor is a lack of action in the bedroom. There are, however circumstances that may magnify these; the most common:

She cheated

She was downright hateful

She withheld physical attention

These are not permission slips to infidelity; but we’re all human. These can make it a little tougher on a guy to remain true, especially when there is a lady standing by, willing to give him what he feels he’s missing.

Of course, there is always the case that he’s just a dogg. Maybe his lady gave him all the love, support and attention she could muster and she thought they had it all, and he still couldn’t stay faithful. He’s an ass. If your radar detects this and you ignore it, thinking he’ll be different with you - then be prepared for the heartbreak that is likely to come.

People can change...

Everyone makes mistakes. Think about the worst thing you’ve ever done. Chances are, your faith, a loved one or a best friend provided enough support to get you beyond your horrible act – and to a place where you vowed never to do such thing again.

Can you relate?

If so, imagine for a second that someone learned of your past mistake and assessed your character by this one error that you so profoundly regret. That would be tough, huh?

If you thought you were going to get a straight answer to this question, apologies!! The truth is, there is no sure answer. Just as there is no sure bet that a guy who has never cheated in his life won’t cheat for the first time with you.

Every person and situation is different. Listen to your heart. Trust your gut. If you feel like there is potential that he’ll cheat on you, and you can’t get passed the fear, then move on. You’ll be happier in the end. By all means, if he does show remorse, and you want to give the relationship a “go,” don’t bring it up again. Ever.